Regaining perspective

This has been a very emotional journey,.. but it needs a hiatus.

There are other aspects of my life that have been sorely neglected.

But because the attack can come at anytime, I do think that it will be worth it.

Persons who have been bullied, and still remain standing need certain qualities in order to thrive afterwards.

At some point you must let go of the Anger.

Anger

Anger can be a destructive force that distorts reality and blocks one's ability to deal with issues clearly. To feel anger is to see an enemy who must be attacked and conquered.

and at some point you also let go of the form that is Righteous Indignation.

... the simmering resentment over the injustice of being wrongly labeled.

Somehow, this makes the anger in the present, .. and not bitterness over past injustices.

And what you end up with is

A deep inner strength that does not always display itself on the surface.
It is as tough as an old samaan tree whose roots anchor it firmly against hurricanes.

These quiet ones absorb insult without breaking apart.
They must bend beneath the force of attacks against their integrity, then come back to a standing position still unbroken and intact.

Overcoming life's extra challenges involves having an inner structure as tough as iron, and includes the ability to absorb enormous insult without retaliating. They know not to fight every battle that comes along. And at times, a certain degree of meekness, the ability to turn the other cheek in the face of confrontation.

A healthy sense of humour as an antidote to self-pity.